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<DIV id=mainNewsContent class="mainNewsContent NewsContent"><TR><TD style="PADDING-TOP: 10px" class=td_24 width="660">美國著名存在主義性心理學(xué)家羅洛·梅曾經(jīng)開過心理診所,接診過許多這樣的病人:他們都是床上的性愛健將,可以很好地完成一場(chǎng)性行為,但因?yàn)樗麄冞^于重視技巧,卻缺乏熱情,長期下來,他們漸漸感到內(nèi)心的空虛。 羅洛·梅發(fā)現(xiàn)這些病人有一個(gè)共同的特點(diǎn):他們漸漸成功地將性與愛分裂了。 8 D& T( l3 ^3 k7 f9 l6 T: a
<P> 他們免除了愛的痛苦和煩惱,但也找不到生存的意義了,當(dāng)性變成一種活塞運(yùn)動(dòng)后,對(duì)于他們來說,一切便變得越來越?jīng)]有意思了。</P>
6 {1 N# n8 q9 k1 p; u- f<P> 做“性”不做“愛”的后果是什么呢?</P>. B3 ]2 b( |. _, b, g+ n) e3 m* |
<P> 羅洛·梅認(rèn)為,首先,激情的性應(yīng)該是兩雙眼睛對(duì)視出來的火花的迸發(fā),而不僅僅只是兩個(gè)肉體的糾纏,缺乏心靈和熱情的投入,你只能讓自己的“性”趣越來越索然。</P>
% v. P8 ], {# W6 G<P> 其次,你從這種單純的做“性”不做“愛”中,將看不到生活的意義。性的本質(zhì)之一是將我們?cè)诙虝r(shí)間的歡愉之中,導(dǎo)向徹底的融合,讓我們不再感到孤獨(dú)。可是,只做“性”不做“愛”,將我們的心靈從性中剝離出來,肉體的碰撞無論如何火花四濺,你的心靈卻依然孤獨(dú)。</P>
* s' x: y! \7 A- A<P> 還有,只做“性”不做“愛”還會(huì)讓我們?nèi)諠u喪失愛的能力。所謂的看山則山,看水則水,為什么現(xiàn)代人都抱怨真愛難尋,或者世界上根本沒有真正的愛情?其實(shí),有沒有真愛,就像人生有沒有意義一樣,取決于一個(gè)人對(duì)真愛的態(tài)度,信則有,不信則無。如果一個(gè)人只做“性”,當(dāng)然感受不到真愛,那么長此以往,他會(huì)把一切歸入簡單的生物本能,理所當(dāng)然地認(rèn)為所謂的愛,也不過如此了。 </P>
; g" R5 C+ |1 M. u, l. Z/ z" E<P> 為什么在這樣一個(gè)時(shí)代,現(xiàn)代人更普遍地只做“性”不做“愛”呢?</P>! N- k5 W( q2 R6 B+ l
<P> 羅洛·梅認(rèn)為,這和一切生活變得快節(jié)奏有關(guān)。愛是需要經(jīng)營的,經(jīng)營氣氛,經(jīng)營心情。它需要時(shí)間和一種執(zhí)著的態(tài)度等,但忙碌的現(xiàn)代人覺得,我沒有時(shí)間去做這一切。</P># `3 _3 b9 p% W7 J! I x
<P> 只做“性”不做“愛”,還和現(xiàn)代人覺得愛是一件麻煩的事情有關(guān)。性只導(dǎo)向快樂,愛雖然也有可能產(chǎn)生極致的快樂――但誰又保證它不產(chǎn)生深刻的痛苦呢?而大多數(shù)時(shí)候,愛是和痛苦、煩惱等聯(lián)系在一起的,既然解決不了那么多痛苦和煩惱,那么干脆遠(yuǎn)離愛。這是典型的現(xiàn)代人的鴕鳥心理,然而,問題是,當(dāng)我們逃避了愛的痛苦時(shí),我們卻又陷入了另一種無聊和空虛的困境之中。</P><A href="http://www.souod.com/"><FONT color=#810081><搜得健康網(wǎng),專業(yè)健康知識(shí)分享,為你健康保駕護(hù)航></FONT></A>
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