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, N i0 E* g0 @0 g! g% u% A) ~<H1>只做性不做“愛”讓我們喪失了什么?</H1></DIV>
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; v+ k ]/ A" a3 ^<DIV id=mainNewsContent class="mainNewsContent NewsContent"><TR><TD style="PADDING-TOP: 10px" class=td_24 width="660">美國著名存在主義性心理學(xué)家羅洛·梅曾經(jīng)開過心理診所,接診過許多這樣的病人:他們都是床上的性愛健將,可以很好地完成一場性行為,但因為他們過于重視技巧,卻缺乏熱情,長期下來,他們漸漸感到內(nèi)心的空虛。 羅洛·梅發(fā)現(xiàn)這些病人有一個共同的特點(diǎn):他們漸漸成功地將性與愛分裂了。 & {2 j% v# h) I! y
<P> 他們免除了愛的痛苦和煩惱,但也找不到生存的意義了,當(dāng)性變成一種活塞運(yùn)動后,對于他們來說,一切便變得越來越?jīng)]有意思了。</P>
6 r: D2 z5 {# T" S n9 d& X<P> 做“性”不做“愛”的后果是什么呢?</P>
3 ^& ~( `9 O" m1 G4 ?: z3 o1 Z! O<P> 羅洛·梅認(rèn)為,首先,激情的性應(yīng)該是兩雙眼睛對視出來的火花的迸發(fā),而不僅僅只是兩個肉體的糾纏,缺乏心靈和熱情的投入,你只能讓自己的“性”趣越來越索然。</P>' M" C0 s; n6 [7 @* `, Z- y
<P> 其次,你從這種單純的做“性”不做“愛”中,將看不到生活的意義。性的本質(zhì)之一是將我們在短時間的歡愉之中,導(dǎo)向徹底的融合,讓我們不再感到孤獨(dú)??墒?,只做“性”不做“愛”,將我們的心靈從性中剝離出來,肉體的碰撞無論如何火花四濺,你的心靈卻依然孤獨(dú)。</P>8 z+ P! f7 p+ [) A" @* I
<P> 還有,只做“性”不做“愛”還會讓我們?nèi)諠u喪失愛的能力。所謂的看山則山,看水則水,為什么現(xiàn)代人都抱怨真愛難尋,或者世界上根本沒有真正的愛情?其實(shí),有沒有真愛,就像人生有沒有意義一樣,取決于一個人對真愛的態(tài)度,信則有,不信則無。如果一個人只做“性”,當(dāng)然感受不到真愛,那么長此以往,他會把一切歸入簡單的生物本能,理所當(dāng)然地認(rèn)為所謂的愛,也不過如此了。 </P>, V) V. D5 F) q2 d
<P> 為什么在這樣一個時代,現(xiàn)代人更普遍地只做“性”不做“愛”呢?</P>
( Q, n0 v6 `3 V6 s<P> 羅洛·梅認(rèn)為,這和一切生活變得快節(jié)奏有關(guān)。愛是需要經(jīng)營的,經(jīng)營氣氛,經(jīng)營心情。它需要時間和一種執(zhí)著的態(tài)度等,但忙碌的現(xiàn)代人覺得,我沒有時間去做這一切。</P>+ [$ w5 K" z( z" J% @; B0 L
<P> 只做“性”不做“愛”,還和現(xiàn)代人覺得愛是一件麻煩的事情有關(guān)。性只導(dǎo)向快樂,愛雖然也有可能產(chǎn)生極致的快樂――但誰又保證它不產(chǎn)生深刻的痛苦呢?而大多數(shù)時候,愛是和痛苦、煩惱等聯(lián)系在一起的,既然解決不了那么多痛苦和煩惱,那么干脆遠(yuǎn)離愛。這是典型的現(xiàn)代人的鴕鳥心理,然而,問題是,當(dāng)我們逃避了愛的痛苦時,我們卻又陷入了另一種無聊和空虛的困境之中。</P><A href="http://www.souod.com/"><FONT color=#810081><搜得健康網(wǎng),專業(yè)健康知識分享,為你健康保駕護(hù)航></FONT></A>
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