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9 J5 T6 c* [: j! T0 I<DIV class=mainNewsInfo><SPAN id=mainFontSize><A style="POSITION: relative; CURSOR: hand" title=減小字體 onclick="newasp_fontsize(0,'mainNewsContent')"><IMG border=0 src="/images/1.gif" width=15 height=15><FONT color=#ff6600>減小字體</FONT></A> <A style="POSITION: relative; CURSOR: hand" title=增大字體 onclick="newasp_fontsize(1,'mainNewsContent')"><IMG border=0 src="/images/2.gif" width=15 height=15><FONT color=#ff6600>增大字體</FONT></A> </SPAN>作者:佚名 來源:<A href="http://www.souod.com"><FONT color=#810081>搜得健康網(wǎng)搜集整理</FONT></A> 發(fā)布時(shí)間:2009-07-14 01:27:33</DIV>; C! g' c. H# X* U5 p y1 V1 Z
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<DIV id=mainNewsContent class="mainNewsContent NewsContent"><TR><TD style="PADDING-TOP: 10px" class=td_24 width="660"> 臺(tái)灣女作家施寄青是一位放飛了自己丈夫的奇女子。在遭遇了婚姻變故后,她獲得了這樣的認(rèn)識(shí):丈夫有外遇而離開家庭,好比下雨天有人偷走了你的傘。這時(shí),女性是順手再拿別人一把傘,還是隨便另買一把?施寄青的答案是:“有時(shí),我們也可以淋雨?!?, S# }$ E! M6 B" G' I
<P><FONT face=Arial> 外遇,一直是女性在婚姻中深為恐懼的瘟疫。它能觸及人性底層最恐懼、最容易引發(fā)痛苦的“背叛”情結(jié),給當(dāng)事人帶來難以平復(fù)的巨大心理創(chuàng)傷。大多數(shù)女性在外遇面前,會(huì)脆弱得不堪一擊。家住加拿大英屬哥倫比亞省的安妮·伯特一直認(rèn)為,自己有一段完美的婚姻。直到有一天,丈夫布萊恩·伯特主動(dòng)承認(rèn),自己有了外遇。“聽到這個(gè)消息時(shí),我整個(gè)人都驚呆了?!?1月4日,安妮在接受美國??怂闺娨暸_(tái)采訪時(shí)回憶道,“我開始和不同的人交流,了解他們對(duì)婚姻的看法,面對(duì)背叛時(shí)的態(tài)度,試圖找到一些合理的解決方法。最后,我挽救了自己的婚姻?!?1月的第一周,安妮和丈夫慶祝了兩人結(jié)婚26周年紀(jì)念日,同時(shí),兩人聯(lián)名撰寫的《丈夫的外遇是我遇到的最重要之事》一書,也登上了各大暢銷書排行榜。</FONT></P>
- B( r+ K$ p& w<P><FONT face=Arial> 美國心理學(xué)家馬塞拉·巴克表示,很多人面對(duì)外遇時(shí),第一個(gè)念頭就是細(xì)數(shù)自己受到的傷害,而不是判斷是否能挽救婚姻、積極想辦法來重建信賴感,逃避是于事無補(bǔ)的?!叭绻X得還深愛對(duì)方,那就要學(xué)會(huì)處理懷疑感?!?lt;/FONT></P>, s! x0 p, J: R, ]& f6 w
<P><FONT face=Arial> 安妮說:“獲知噩耗的3個(gè)月內(nèi),夫妻雙方都不要做任何重大的決定。而是盡量讓生活保持原有的規(guī)律,照常上班、參加社會(huì)活動(dòng)、和老朋友聚會(huì),這樣有助于從理性的角度去反省背叛?!睂?duì)伯特夫婦而言,開始改正自己的錯(cuò)誤并學(xué)會(huì)接受對(duì)方,這一點(diǎn)非常有效?!叭藷o完人。任何一對(duì)夫妻都要先檢討自己。以前,我們傾向于責(zé)備對(duì)方,其實(shí)自身也有很多問題。現(xiàn)在,我們不再要求對(duì)方盡善盡美,維持彼此依賴的關(guān)系也就不再是件難事。”</FONT></P>7 w+ W& _3 [$ S
<P><FONT face=Arial> 據(jù)了解,為了幫助更多面對(duì)婚姻危機(jī)的人,安妮還開辦了非營利性網(wǎng)站“超越外遇”,專為夫妻提供有效的建議。 </FONT></P><A href="http://www.souod.com/"><FONT color=#810081><搜得健康網(wǎng),專業(yè)健康知識(shí)分享,為你健康保駕護(hù)航></FONT></A>5 v# H, g$ j) t
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